Find a Way to Communicate

…Thou couldest have no power at all against me…
– John 19:11

Nothing is real to us unless we make it real. Nothing can touch us unless we let it touch us … Refuse to receive anyone’s condemnation.
– Science of Mind, page 307

You’ll Have to Find Another Way to Communicate With Me!

In Religious Science we say that no one can make us feel guilty without our permission; no one can manipulate us without our permission, and no one can hurt our feelings without our permission. That’s easy to say, you might be thinking, but what do I say when someone is trying to control me? Where shall I get the strength?

Recently I met an amazing young couple who gave me a powerful answer to this conundrum. Both of them are awesomely integrated, vibrant individuals who have a live, active, spiritual relationship with God.

The husband had been married twice before, and was used to being in control. In fact, he had developed the skill of manipulation into a fine art. The wife was not used to this type of interaction, and the very first time he tried it on her, she gave him a classic answer that will inspire people throughout the ages. She went within for inner strength, looked at him calmly and lovingly and said, “I don’t do manipulation. You’ll have to find another way to communicate with me.” Their entire relationship changed and they entered a new level of truth and intimacy neither of them had ever known before.

As I share this tool with my numerous students and clients, they have come up with wonderful variations, such as “I don’t do guilt, anger, control, etc.” The main idea here is to go within, set a boundary of what you will and will not accept, and then add calmly, “You’ll have to find another way to communicate with me.”

Today, I dive to the center of my being wherein my Truth dwells. From this Truth, I lovingly communicate with others, and accept only loving and truthful communication in return. Thank You, God.

Rev. Dr. Rainbow Johnson
ADAAP Outreach Minister